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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 15:42:01 GMT
I tend to take the approach that I don't need permission from the Church to be somebody's friend. What about a Registry Office wedding? You don't need anyone's permission to get married!
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Post by Telemachus on Feb 21, 2017 15:43:04 GMT
Marriage or civil partnership is good for families and that, I suppose, is good for society. Or should be /used to be. However, these days the fashion seems to be to have wedding, get bored after a couple of years, then divorce and have another fancy wedding. Repeat ad infinitum.
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Post by Mr Stabby on Feb 21, 2017 15:44:56 GMT
I tend to take the approach that I don't need permission from the Church to be somebody's friend. What about a Registry Office wedding? You don't need anyone's permission to get married! Well, I'm not sure how much it costs, but however much it is I'm sure the money would be better spent on diesel, coal and cans of Special Brew.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 15:46:35 GMT
OK, understood. I just feel that couples should commit to each other before deciding to have children. I don't suppose they get called bastards today but they were when I was at school. Marriage or civil partnership is good for families and that, I suppose, is good for society. I don't complain that my taxes subsidise those with children even though my wife and I don't have any. What constitutes commitment? And in whose eyes? I'd say making a home and being faithful to one and other is as big a commitment as any! Thankfully the stigma of being from unmarried parents, not being christained, not attending church along with being from a broken home is something that's long gone. My parents split up in 1984, the amount of kids in my school who were from broken homes was tiny, it was definitely frowned upon - particularly by the teachers. Fascist bastards!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 15:47:29 GMT
What about a Registry Office wedding? You don't need anyone's permission to get married! Well, I'm not sure how much it costs, but however much it is I'm sure the money would be better spent on diesel, coal and cans of Special Brew. but what does your manager think?
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Post by thebfg on Feb 21, 2017 15:49:00 GMT
I had not noticed that. Sorry I meant could. It was more rhetoric than anything. To be fair, we should get married but we always said saving for a house was more important. I'm happy anyway, I asked my local vicar, in jest if we were living in sin, he said it's ok now. I don't even know what we would gain out of getting married apart from the declaration of love and all that do I don't know what we're missing. I saw the two on the news. They seemed to have a point but I've no idea what it is. The whole idea that a marriage ceremony must cost a fortune and outdo the neighbours' wedding, is ludicrous. Why not just get married in a registry office, couple of witnesses, off down the pub for a pissup and that's it. £50 should do it. It is about your own commitment to each other, not about impressing the friends and relatives. Reasons to do it: As an unofficial partner you could for instance: Be denied attendance at partner's funeral let alone any say in how it's run, if the in-laws don't like you not have any say in the treatment and care of a seriously ill partner; not have automatic inheritance of partner's assets on death nor get the IHT relief not be entitled to a surviving spouse's pension and probably lots of other things Thanks, Ironic when you think we've lived together longer than most people have been together before getting divorced. Maybe that's a pro. She won't get half of my stuff if we spilt up😀 However half of nothing is still nothing. You sound like my dad. He said he would pay for it all. If it cost less than £500. My aunt says just do it different maybe a small service and then a picnic somewhere in the new forest and a night down the pub.
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Post by Mr Stabby on Feb 21, 2017 15:50:32 GMT
Well, I'm not sure how much it costs, but however much it is I'm sure the money would be better spent on diesel, coal and cans of Special Brew. but what does your manager think? Well, she's never hinted at it and as I've been with her on and off for about 35 years now I think she would have mentioned it by now if it was important to her?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 15:58:07 GMT
You might just make her day by asking!
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Post by thebfg on Feb 21, 2017 15:58:39 GMT
OK, understood. I just feel that couples should commit to each other before deciding to have children. I don't suppose they get called bastards today but they were when I was at school. Marriage or civil partnership is good for families and that, I suppose, is good for society. I don't complain that my taxes subsidise those with children even though my wife and I don't have any. Ours first child was a surprise. We had been living together for three years and we dident want to get married at the time just because of the child. I wanted to get married because we both wanted too. Unfortunately the wedding photos won't be great now as I've aged. Lost teeth and hair and need ti work on the beer gut. She's, well I won't say it.
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Post by Saltysplash on Feb 21, 2017 16:02:31 GMT
I had not noticed that. Sorry I meant could. It was more rhetoric than anything. To be fair, we should get married but we always said saving for a house was more important. I'm happy anyway, I asked my local vicar, in jest if we were living in sin, he said it's ok now. I don't even know what we would gain out of getting married apart from the declaration of love and all that do I don't know what we're missing. I saw the two on the news. They seemed to have a point but I've no idea what it is. The whole idea that a marriage ceremony must cost a fortune and outdo the neighbours' wedding, is ludicrous. Why not just get married in a registry office, couple of witnesses, off down the pub for a pissup and that's it. £50 should do it. It is about your own commitment to each other, not about impressing the friends and relatives. This what we did, Family only at the registry office then a couple of hours later friends and everyone down to the Job social club where we had a karaoke set up and a finger buffet. All for less than 500 big ones, 200 of which I put behind the bar.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 16:05:18 GMT
The whole idea that a marriage ceremony must cost a fortune and outdo the neighbours' wedding, is ludicrous. Why not just get married in a registry office, couple of witnesses, off down the pub for a pissup and that's it. £50 should do it. It is about your own commitment to each other, not about impressing the friends and relatives. Reasons to do it: As an unofficial partner you could for instance: Be denied attendance at partner's funeral let alone any say in how it's run, if the in-laws don't like you not have any say in the treatment and care of a seriously ill partner; not have automatic inheritance of partner's assets on death nor get the IHT relief not be entitled to a surviving spouse's pension and probably lots of other things Thanks, Ironic when you think we've lived together longer than most people have been together before getting divorced. Maybe that's a pro. She won't get half of my stuff if we spilt up😀 However half of nothing is still nothing. You sound like my dad. He said he would pay for it all. If it cost less than £500. My aunt says just do it different maybe a small service and then a picnic somewhere in the new forest and a night down the pub. We've been to many weddings together over the last 18 years, some small, some big, some cheap, some expensive, some utterly obscene in the amount of money spent. Many that cost a fortune were not that great, a couple have hit the rocks, and a few seem to be going that way as well! By far the best was my mates up at Gretna Green. All the guests covered there own travel and hotel costs - this meant only those that cared and wanted to be there came. We all stayed at the Premier Inn J42 on the M6, catering was a small buffet and then feed yourself off the menu. We had a long weekend up there and took in some of the lakes the day after the wedding, absolutely without question one of the most fun weddings I've ever been to. The ceremony (taken by a registrar and in no way religious) at the old Smithy was a bit whistle stop but was good none the less. Nick outlines the financial security getting married gives to your partner, which is probably the main benefit these days! A long with the important aspects of not having your partners family dictate to you things that could be against both you and your partner's wishes
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Post by thebfg on Feb 21, 2017 16:13:26 GMT
Thanks, Ironic when you think we've lived together longer than most people have been together before getting divorced. Maybe that's a pro. She won't get half of my stuff if we spilt up😀 However half of nothing is still nothing. You sound like my dad. He said he would pay for it all. If it cost less than £500. My aunt says just do it different maybe a small service and then a picnic somewhere in the new forest and a night down the pub. We've been to many weddings together over the last 18 years, some small, some big, some cheap, some expensive, some utterly obscene in the amount of money spent. Many that cost a fortune were not that great, a couple have hit the rocks, and a few seem to be going that way as well! By far the best was my mates up at Gretna Green. All the guests covered there own travel and hotel costs - this meant only those that cared and wanted to be there came. We all stayed at the Premier Inn J42 on the M6, catering was a small buffet and then feed yourself off the menu. We had a long weekend up there and took in some of the lakes the day after the wedding, absolutely without question one of the most fun weddings I've ever been to. The ceremony (taken by a registrar and in no way religious) at the old Smithy was a bit whistle stop but was good none the less. Nick outlines the financial security getting married gives to your partner, which is probably the main benefit these days! I think my aunt has a point. A picnic in a beautiful setting will be remembered more than the lavish ones we've been to. I might even provide the blankets. In the forest there are some great bbq sites which would be good. I do laugh when people go to great expense to have the wedding breakfast somewhere nice with all the trimmings but all everyone does is moan about the shit food. All this is making me want to do it. I get abused all the time because we haven't got married. We're going to my neices beech wedding in aya nappa in October. No doubt my family will abuse me more there.
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Post by Saltysplash on Feb 21, 2017 16:17:56 GMT
I think a Picnic/BBQ would be a great Idea.
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Post by thebfg on Feb 21, 2017 16:19:02 GMT
I think a Picnic/BBQ would be a great Idea. I'm glad she's not on here. She might think I've started planning 😁
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 16:26:40 GMT
There's nothing a married couple hate more than a happy bachelor! (male or female, I hate the words bachelorette or spinster)
Of course, Bridget Jones hated the smug marrieds!
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