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Post by patty on Mar 30, 2020 5:17:59 GMT
I do look youthful, boyish and stunningly good looking. When I was 43 I was asked for Proof of Age ID when I bought four cans of beer in an off licence in Newport, south Wales. I just think some men are designated to be God's Gift to Women. I'm know as gullible ..believing all I'm told...... However...... sorry Vince not even I can believe that one
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Post by patty on Mar 30, 2020 5:32:38 GMT
As to the question posed by the thread ..I'd given this some thought yesterday afternoon as I was having a bit of a rough time This thought aided and abetted by a glass or 2 of vino and a quantity of chocolate brought back for others from my trip away....I now will not see some family and friends for months. Its a shame for it to go to waste as an aside..to-day standing on the scales I see not too much damage done.....
I suffered severely from anxiety/panic etc during bad mental health collapse a decade ago...I am getting what I call memory maggots burrowing and recognise only me can sort these out...to much time totally alone..the people u see on your daily exercise scurry past as if we are all potential plague carriers. I had not realised that the cheery little chats meant so much,,,you never know what you are gonna miss till its not there. I've decided that I have to get my act together if i'm not going to lapse....the demons wait..and they can just bog off . I'm not sure alcohol is the answer to any question but it aids thinking. I hate the thought that some of my elderly crumbly friends may not make it through..that I won't see them again Two in particular stood by me through all my ill health and literally dragged me from rock bottom..one lives Dover..the other Glasgow.. I do phone and will continue to do so ..in fact I now have a list of all those I know to be alone and I'm keeping in regular contact. I do not have a large circle of friends and all of them..including people on here are important in my life. So for me the loss is personal..the friends i may never see again..the worry how they will cope if they get it and the sad fact that if hospitalised no-one can see them.
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Post by JohnV on Mar 30, 2020 6:05:13 GMT
I do not have a large circle of friends and all of them..including people on here are important in my life. So for me the loss is personal..the friends i may never see again..the worry how they will cope if they get it and the sad fact that if hospitalised no-one can see them. Like you Patty, I don't have a large circle of friends (quite a few of them are on here) and any loss would be deeply felt. I also only have two blood relations (at least ones that I keep contact with) my sister in her early 80's and a cousin who is approaching his 90th. I worry about my sister, we are very close and when I was in Benfleet we were close enough for mutual support, moving to Yorkshire although it had many pluses for me, the distance between us was the downside and that was before this occurred. We have each promised the other that if either of us fall ill the other will not go to try and help. If it should happen it will be desperately hard. I have a fairly phlegmatic personality and do not worry too much about what the future may hold. I have always been of the "prepare for what you can think of and just deal with what you didn't) camp, which has served me fairly well over the years. This will be a fairly tough test for all of us I think, because whoever has the right of the situation, the fall out world wide, is going to change things in ways that are unforseeable. Those who think this is just a hiccup and in a few months everything will return to the same old ways I feel is sorely mistaken.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 8:36:44 GMT
I fear this trouble may be my fault ...
this is the third year on the trot we have attempted to visit the Llangollen in spring and been thwarted.
In 2018 we had to abandon attempts owing to Jane's Sainted old Mum's ill health ... much easier to regularly travel home from the Macclesfield.
In 2019 we actually got as far as Grindley Brook before having to abandon due to my knee, and various family members cancer treatments.
This year we made it to Nantwich before the portcullis dropped.
So I'm sorry to inconvenience everyone ... wonder where we'll go in 2021 ?
Rog
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Post by naughtyfox on Mar 30, 2020 8:43:28 GMT
this is the third year on the trot we have attempted to visit the Llangollen in spring and been thwarted. Ah... so it is true! Caught like a rabbit in the headlights. I think the thought of the North Wales farmers berating you has made you think twice What's wrong with Nantwich? There's a Morrisons there. And bell ringing on Thursdays (although probably cancelled for the time being). And trains to take you through pretty countryside to Shrewsbury.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 8:46:20 GMT
I remember Nantwich having good charity shops but these are all closed now which is a shame.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 8:51:14 GMT
Who said there was anything 'wrong' with Nantwich ?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 9:01:12 GMT
Why should I know ? Do expect me to read all this nonsense.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 9:09:43 GMT
We love Nantwich (including the charity shops which are indeed shut ) it always seems quite chilled and sleepy ... certainly is on this visit ! You've got to love a town that won't have McDonalds and Wetherspoons in it. Our first involvement with a 'share boat' in the 1990's we were frozen in at Nantwich basin for a week, and fell in love with the town from then. Hope I've spelled everything correctly as I'm not reading all this nonsense either. Rog
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Post by naughtyfox on Mar 30, 2020 9:15:41 GMT
As not everyone's been to Nantwich: Railway station is shit, though.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 9:28:05 GMT
Depends what you want ... trains stop which is all I need Rog
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Post by tecka on Mar 30, 2020 9:33:21 GMT
As to the question posed by the thread ..I'd given this some thought yesterday afternoon as I was having a bit of a rough time This thought aided and abetted by a glass or 2 of vino and a quantity of chocolate brought back for others from my trip away....I now will not see some family and friends for months. Its a shame for it to go to waste as an aside..to-day standing on the scales I see not too much damage done..... I suffered severely from anxiety/panic etc during bad mental health collapse a decade ago...I am getting what I call memory maggots burrowing and recognise only me can sort these out...to much time totally alone..the people u see on your daily exercise scurry past as if we are all potential plague carriers. I had not realised that the cheery little chats meant so much,,,you never know what you are gonna miss till its not there. I've decided that I have to get my act together if i'm not going to lapse....the demons wait..and they can just bog off . I'm not sure alcohol is the answer to any question but it aids thinking. I hate the thought that some of my elderly crumbly friends may not make it through..that I won't see them again Two in particular stood by me through all my ill health and literally dragged me from rock bottom..one lives Dover..the other Glasgow.. I do phone and will continue to do so ..in fact I now have a list of all those I know to be alone and I'm keeping in regular contact. I do not have a large circle of friends and all of them..including people on here are important in my life. So for me the loss is personal..the friends i may never see again..the worry how they will cope if they get it and the sad fact that if hospitalised no-one can see them. As a lurker / very occasional poster coming back to the fold here I would like to say thank you for the openness. I very recently realised that the maggots you refer to had been burrowing away for a while, in a way I'm lucky as I hit rock bottom just before the lockdown and opened up just in time to get registered with a GP after 5 years. Also lucky I was moored near family so I had a physical address I could use to do so. In times like these we need to know that we're not alone hence my appreciation of your post. Although a stranger I'm here for anyone that needs it, whether it's a shoulder to cry on or someone to shout at if you need to lash out.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 10:09:15 GMT
As to the question posed by the thread ..I'd given this some thought yesterday afternoon as I was having a bit of a rough time This thought aided and abetted by a glass or 2 of vino and a quantity of chocolate brought back for others from my trip away....I now will not see some family and friends for months. Its a shame for it to go to waste as an aside..to-day standing on the scales I see not too much damage done..... I suffered severely from anxiety/panic etc during bad mental health collapse a decade ago...I am getting what I call memory maggots burrowing and recognise only me can sort these out...to much time totally alone..the people u see on your daily exercise scurry past as if we are all potential plague carriers. I had not realised that the cheery little chats meant so much,,,you never know what you are gonna miss till its not there. I've decided that I have to get my act together if i'm not going to lapse....the demons wait..and they can just bog off . I'm not sure alcohol is the answer to any question but it aids thinking. I hate the thought that some of my elderly crumbly friends may not make it through..that I won't see them again Two in particular stood by me through all my ill health and literally dragged me from rock bottom..one lives Dover..the other Glasgow.. I do phone and will continue to do so ..in fact I now have a list of all those I know to be alone and I'm keeping in regular contact. I do not have a large circle of friends and all of them..including people on here are important in my life. So for me the loss is personal..the friends i may never see again..the worry how they will cope if they get it and the sad fact that if hospitalised no-one can see them. I wish there was a heart and hug emoji on here (using mobile). Yes, sadly there is a background of paranoia and anxiety with me too. However I have learnt over the years to try and appreciate what ever we have left and treat each day like a mini life. I used to be very much a half glass empty person but less so now. It's Chris's fault, she beats me with a stick when I start to get grumpy. ;-)
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Post by patty on Mar 30, 2020 10:28:29 GMT
I'm no good at copying multi posts to reply to ...but thanks everyone whose responded... My family always think I'm too open with what I say..possibly due to the many counsellors who 'helped' recovery. We all have to deal with this in our own way but its good to know that there are folk on here that understand some of the concerns. xx Patty
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2020 10:35:20 GMT
I'm no good at copying multi posts to reply to ...but thanks everyone whose responded... My family always think I'm too open with what I say..possibly due to the many counsellors who 'helped' recovery. We all have to deal with this in our own way but its good to know that there are folk on here that understand some of the concerns. xx Patty Nothing wrong with being open so long as we have nothing to hide and it might even help people going through the same.
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