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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2020 18:33:25 GMT
Enjoy the process ... the journey's always equally as much fun as the arrival Amazing metanoia remembering your due date ... how very empathetic. Rog Thanks Rog, hopefully there'll be no further snags and I'll be able to report all shipshape and under way within the next 10 days, but I'm still not counting the chickens- its at the mercy of the behemoth that is the NHS pensions organisation, whose wheels grind at their own direction, and not mine. I agree with you that it was very thoughtful of Metanoia to post a welcome aboard message, and it I really appreciated the kind thoughts. I honestly dont want to stereotype people but I have found that, very generally speaking, women take the trouble to note significant days in the lives of people they know or even talk to, whereas men only remember birthdays and anniversaries- and then it is only from the sense of utter dread that they might have to live with the consequences of forgetting! It cant be just me that is a complete oaf... Can it...?
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Post by Jim on Aug 17, 2020 8:15:54 GMT
maybe present owner could take u out and go through everything.. The guy who sorted out my boat for me was ace he ensured I knew everything ... I forgot lots and made silly mistakes but he always answered my panicked phone calls and talked me through every crises.... I guess I was super lucky To be fair to him Patty he did offer to take me for a spin and show me all the systems, but we have a problem. He's buying a brand new widebeam in Liverpool and sailing it down the Ely, and he'll be leaving during next week to launch it. He did say I can call him any time and he'll talk me through any queries. I think on the day we complete the purchase I'll have him for an hour or so on the phone, but I dont want to bother him too much as he will have his own set of hassles on his brand new boat, dealing with the passage from Liverpool to Ely via the Wash! If you have an android phone you can install tapatalk app it's easy to upload photos to a post, tapatalk sorts out the hosting. No comments to be dealt with.
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Post by kris on Aug 17, 2020 8:26:49 GMT
He’s very quiet, I wonder if he’s sunk already? Only my spirits Kris- only my spirits. Give me another two weeks and I might do for the boat! Don’t worry, what’s another week? You’ve waited this long.
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Post by Jim on Aug 17, 2020 15:45:21 GMT
One of the wags in my office got me a captains hat as a leaving gift. It is of regrettably poor quality, but I think at a distance of ten yards or so, I'll look like a real captain when passing other boats. I think people will be impressed by my nautical demeanour, if not my cap. She also got me a plastic telescope- again, shocking quality, and no use rounding the Horn, but I'll look like a proper salty mariner scoping out the locks ahead as I cruise towards them on HMS Deadbeat. ... Whilst steering with one hand, G&T in the other.
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Post by Clinton Cool on Aug 17, 2020 16:30:25 GMT
Enjoy the process ... the journey's always equally as much fun as the arrival Amazing metanoia remembering your due date ... how very empathetic. Rog Thanks Rog, hopefully there'll be no further snags and I'll be able to report all shipshape and under way within the next 10 days, but I'm still not counting the chickens- its at the mercy of the behemoth that is the NHS pensions organisation, whose wheels grind at their own direction, and not mine. I agree with you that it was very thoughtful of Metanoia to post a welcome aboard message, and it I really appreciated the kind thoughts. I honestly dont want to stereotype people but I have found that, very generally speaking, women take the trouble to note significant days in the lives of people they know or even talk to, whereas men only remember birthdays and anniversaries- and then it is only from the sense of utter dread that they might have to live with the consequences of forgetting! It cant be just me that is a complete oaf... Can it...? You're right. The only birthday I know, apart from my own, is that of my ex. wife. Men just don't do dates very well. I know they say that stereotyping is wrong but the alternative, where we pretend that everyone is exactly the same, is delusional. Better to stereotype I'd suggest, but without positive or negative connotations. This is difficult in the modern day, positive or negative connotations are often applied by others, even when there's no intention of this from the speaker; he or she was simply sharing his or her life experience with others.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2020 16:37:12 GMT
To be fair to him Patty he did offer to take me for a spin and show me all the systems, but we have a problem. He's buying a brand new widebeam in Liverpool and sailing it down the Ely, and he'll be leaving during next week to launch it. He did say I can call him any time and he'll talk me through any queries. I think on the day we complete the purchase I'll have him for an hour or so on the phone, but I dont want to bother him too much as he will have his own set of hassles on his brand new boat, dealing with the passage from Liverpool to Ely via the Wash! If you have an android phone you can install tapatalk app it's easy to upload photos to a post, tapatalk sorts out the hosting. No comments to be dealt with. Thanks Jim, I'll give tapatalk a go and see if I get get slick with it this week. To be fair IMGUR isn't bad, it was just strange having random folks from all over the world chiming in with comments
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Post by naughtyfox on Aug 17, 2020 16:57:54 GMT
Only my spirits Kris- only my spirits. Give me another two weeks and I might do for the boat! Don’t worry, what’s another week? You’ve waited this long.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2020 17:03:51 GMT
Surely taking the trouble to remember birthdays, anniversaries etc is a simple choice, totally unconnected to gender.
The fact that a lot of men are too lazy or disinterested to make the effort, shouldn't be disguised by a suggestion that ladies are particularly gifted in this regard.
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Post by Telemachus on Aug 17, 2020 17:09:05 GMT
Surely taking the trouble to remember birthdays, anniversaries etc is a simple choice, totally unconnected to gender. The fact that a lot of men are too lazy or disinterested to make the effort, shouldn't be disguised by a suggestion that ladies are particularly gifted in this regard. Rog I don’t think it is about laziness, gifted-ness or any such thing. It is simply that most men think that remembering dates is pointless, whereas most women seem to find it very important. Personally I have more important and interesting things to think about than eg our CP or wedding anniversary and - bonus - Jeff thinks the same way! We do remember each other’s birthdays but that is only because it’s a good excuse for a bottle of champers!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2020 17:29:46 GMT
So that would come under the 'disinterested' part of where I said "too lazy or disinterested" ?
It irritates me when blokes ascribe some sort of magical powers to ladies when what they really mean is that they can't be arsed to bother.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2020 18:48:59 GMT
So that would come under the 'disinterested' part of where I said "too lazy or disinterested" ? It irritates me when blokes ascribe some sort of magical powers to ladies when what they really mean is that they can't be arsed to bother. Rog I'm not going to try to defend a position on this that is based on men just being 'different', as if that can alone can justify a macho attitude that allows you to be negligent of occasions that are important to other people. That explanation sort of works when you're an 18 year old lad and totally feckless. But by the time you start growing up a bit, you should care enough about about the people in your life that you make the mental effort to note important dates, and I've gotten better at this as I've gotten older. There have been no disasters for a couple of decades in fact. I think men find it a bit more of a conscious effort, but they should certainly make that effort. My original comment was partly tongue in cheek, I can say that. I do still feel that women seem to have a predisposition to having more concern for their own and others feelings, but that does not mean it is a responsibility that men are excused from, and I think it's a positive thing that the younger generations of men seem to be better at expressing their feelings. I grew up with six brothers and one sister in a single-parent working class household in liverpool in the 60s and 70s, which by today's standards was very much akin to growing up among a pack of feral wolves. You simply did not show weakness, and you did not show feelings all that much. So it should not be underestimated that us older blokes sometimes have a genuine struggle to overcome what seems initially like a weakness, by openly and freely communicating our feelings- but I have a sense that human beings are built to function better that way, rather than by adopting the 'strong and silent' emotional lifestyle. I think men do need to make that effort to address shortcomings in their basic makeup, eg remembering important dates. I personally regret that on occasion in the past, I've let myself off the hook for emotional negligence towards partners, when it was my duty to show them more feelings. I guess we all have to keep on trying to do this stuff better...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2020 19:44:41 GMT
Great post in my view Rog
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Post by patty on Aug 18, 2020 4:34:12 GMT
If you have an android phone you can install tapatalk app it's easy to upload photos to a post, tapatalk sorts out the hosting. No comments to be dealt with. Thanks Jim, I'll give tapatalk a go and see if I get get slick with it this week. To be fair IMGUR isn't bad, it was just strange having random folks from all over the world chiming in with comments I've never chatted on Imgur...I just randomly open it, load the pics and then transfer
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2020 6:19:30 GMT
Thanks Jim, I'll give tapatalk a go and see if I get get slick with it this week. To be fair IMGUR isn't bad, it was just strange having random folks from all over the world chiming in with comments You can upload your images privately, you don't need to share them with everyone on imgur. Thanks Tomos, I'll have a look at the settings next time I use it
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2020 6:24:45 GMT
Thanks Jim, I'll give tapatalk a go and see if I get get slick with it this week. To be fair IMGUR isn't bad, it was just strange having random folks from all over the world chiming in with comments I've never chatted on Imgur...I just randomly open it, load the pics and then transfer I think the reason I stopped to give replies was that most of the comments were phrased as questions- 'does it float?', 'does it go fast?', etc, and I guessed that IMGUR is the kind of site where people upload their pics and videos with the approach of 'hey world, come see my photos!' So it seemed churlish not to then answer the resulting questions- and unlike the internet in general, they were mostly pretty polite and positive. But next time the private setting Tomos mentioned will definitely be set to ON!
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