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Post by on Dec 12, 2023 14:02:01 GMT
I hope you are ok kris. Suicide is not an easy thing to either execute or deal with. Obviously everyone hopes you get past the darkest time of the yar and things improve. Its not an easy time. I've got plenty of suicides in the family (mother, 3 of her brothers, one of my cousins) all executed during times of good physical health. Interestingly in my mother's case she did it in August. So it was not a direct result of the dark weather but perhaps knowing that this is wha is coming. Anyway don't do it ! The afterlife can be terrible or so I have heard. In terms of energy it is better to go while having a good time rather than a bad time. My mum tried to slit her wrists with broken glass but it didn't work so she hanged herself instead. Talk about incompetent !
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 14:54:15 GMT
If people are genuinely concerned then I am grateful. I seem to have turned a corner (touch a bit of wood.) Honestly I hope to just get Xmas and new year out of the way and hope next year is better than the last couple. Health wise I’m waiting for an operation on my hand. Which should be some time in the new year. The “sciatica ” is proving to be more problematic. It’s not getting any better really. That’s since early sept, the initial swelling has gone down and direct soreness is eased. But I’m in agony, without pain killers I’m unable to function normally. I hate taking pain killers, I’ve always tried to avoid opiates, because I saw the damage done in the 80’s and 90’s that continues until this day. I had some close acquaintances die from heroin overdoses. I now find myself in the situation that the NHS is turning me into a junky. Okay that’s a bit drastic, ultimately it’s up to me if I take the drugs prescribed or not. But when it’s a matter of functioning or not what do you do? There is an alternative, which is to self proscribe CBD during the day then Full spectrum CBD at night to be able to sleep. This is okay it doesn’t kill the pain completely but dulls it enough for me to be able to function. Unfortunately I can’t afford to keep self proscribing. So I am forced to take the NHS’s opiates. I was told by the doctor that they don’t prescribe CBD. I have to go for an appointment at gps in Jan to get referral because I feel broken. My hip, lower back and all down my leg is in agony, all the time. The thing I am most pissed off about is that it’s meant I had to stop the job that I had started. I did a weeks work and then this happened. I would have had about 11-14 thousand pounds in the bank by now with the chance to earn another five. It’s not for the money for monies sake. But that would have gone a long way to finishing my boat. Also it’s my mums 80 birthday next year and I was planning on treating her to along weekend away together some where of her choosing. This is the thing that hurts the most, as she is a beautiful person and deserves something wonderful on her 80th. Oh and to top it all I’ve gone and done an Andrew and am signed on the sick. I’ve had my first meeting at UC and I’ve got my first meeting with my work coach tmw. Karma I suppose for taking the piss out of Andrew about it? Anyway I haven’t written this for you to feel sorry for me. But because some people exspressed geniue concern. I have already turned a corner the really dark bit ( hopefully.) was a couple of weeks ago. I’ll get better and be able to earn some money and treat my mum in her 80th year. Anyway you asked.🙃
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Post by on Dec 12, 2023 15:03:03 GMT
Good luck I hope it all works out. Back pain is not a nice thing to have in life. Not at all. If you're going to hop orf the train wait for your mum to go first
I've always considered it a viable solution if it gets uncomfortable but things change.
Not sure I could do this to the kids as they for some unknown reason seem to really like me !
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Post by dogless on Dec 12, 2023 16:08:27 GMT
Tough times kris and I hope you're speedily through them. My youngest sister is currently in hospital having had surgery on her spine and is hoping that this will relieve pressure and reduce the need for pain killers in time. I'm sure your old Mum will be more than happy just to see you well and to spend time with you. Turn of the year soon and 2024 brings new hope and new possibilities. Rog
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Post by on Dec 12, 2023 16:55:11 GMT
Always worth asking the oldies who they are leaving their money to.
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 17:21:42 GMT
Tough times kris and I hope you're speedily through them. My youngest sister is currently in hospital having had surgery on her spine and is hoping that this will relieve pressure and reduce the need for pain killers in time. I'm sure your old Mum will be more than happy just to see you well and to spend time with you. Turn of the year soon and 2024 brings new hope and new possibilities. Rog Thanks for the kind words Rog it has been a hard year. But I’m always grateful for the blessings I do have. I’ve got plenty of food. I’ve a warm home, I’m not having to make a life on the streets like many all over the world. So yes Rog I’ve already turned the corner. The arrival of the light on the 21st will strengthen and bolster these feelings of new directions. The whole family is together for my mums birthday in the new year so yes my mum will love that. It happens so infrequently now a days that we will all enjoy it. I hope your sister recovers well and finds some relief. With this ongoing bout of pain now, I’m beginning to realise what living with chronic pain is all about. I’m only three months in and I’ve thought about ending it all. As I say don’t worry I’m past that. The dark clouds have parted. I’ve had down times before, who hasn’t? But it can get dark and deeper. Luckily I’m moored with good friends. Being able to go and have a brew and a chat with a good friend is a true blessing. So there are lots of people worse off. Thanks for the concern though. Every cloud has a silver lining because I’ve had to be sat for along time I’ve got back into making music. I’m in the process of setting my studio up properly because I’ve got some musical ideas that really interest me again.
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 17:34:32 GMT
Always worth asking the oldies who they are leaving their money to. My mum and dad don’t have much money. I’ve told them to spend it on themselves, as they worked really hard their whole lives for everything they have. They both came from very poor upbringings during and after the war. They both worked very hard to raise a family. They did buy a family home (thank God they did, because they would be considerably worse off if they where in rented accommodation in retirement.) They impoverished themselves buying it when interest rates went up. ( so where robbed by the banks and then Gordon brown robbed what pensions they did have by 20%.} so they deserve to live out their lives being able to eat and heat their home. Anyway so they have always made it clear that anything they do have left after they’ve gone. Is to be split equally three ways between the three sons. We don’t all have rich families like your self.
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Post by dogless on Dec 12, 2023 17:57:47 GMT
Good to hear your positive thoughts kris. My sister who died untimely in February loved to remind me that 'life is an occasion that we should always rise to'. First Christmas without her and her positivity ... it reminds me that we owe it to those not blessed to still be around, to celebrate every day as much as we are able. Enjoy family time. Rog
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Post by Jim on Dec 12, 2023 18:15:56 GMT
kris, our pilates teacher says some of the exercises we do are good for sciatica and back pain. Swmbo has benefitted by strengthening muscles around her joints, it lessens her arthritis pain at night. I've certainly gained in flexibility and strength in the 6 months we've been doing it.
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 18:30:10 GMT
Good to hear your positive thoughts kris. My sister who died untimely in February loved to remind me that 'life is an occasion that we should always rise to'. First Christmas without her and her positivity ... it reminds me that we owe it to those not blessed to still be around, to celebrate every day as much as we are able. Enjoy family time. Rog Sorry I misunderstood I didn’t realise your sister had died.
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 18:33:24 GMT
kris, our pilates teacher says some of the exercises we do are good for sciatica and back pain. Swmbo has benefitted by strengthening muscles around her joints, it lessens her arthritis pain at night. I've certainly gained in flexibility and strength in the 6 months we've been doing it. I’ve already seen a physiotherapist and I am already doing some exercises, well when not in excruciating pain. But when I get an adequate pain management regime in place then I’m thinking of some different treatments.
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Post by dogless on Dec 12, 2023 18:42:10 GMT
Good to hear your positive thoughts kris . My sister who died untimely in February loved to remind me that 'life is an occasion that we should always rise to'. First Christmas without her and her positivity ... it reminds me that we owe it to those not blessed to still be around, to celebrate every day as much as we are able. Enjoy family time. Rog Sorry I misunderstood I didn’t realise your sister had died. No my friend, don't worry ... I have three sisters . Lost a brother (had four) and a sister (had three) both fairly young. My younger sister that died in February , was an infinitely better person than me, yet I'm still here for some reason. Rog
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Post by kris on Dec 12, 2023 18:45:01 GMT
I’m thouroughly confused over your family. But you can explain in person next time we meet.
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Post by on Dec 12, 2023 18:57:07 GMT
My comment about the money was meant to be humorous.
Can you not lean on her a bit and say you need the money more than the others?
If done right this can work but you have to be subtle or it can come out as undue influence later.
I feel that the main aim is for the kids to die after the parents. I don't think I would like to see either of my kids die although sometimes I do wonder.
So it a walk in front of an express train is on the cards wait til the old bat shuffles orf as it would be wrong otherwise.
Both my parents are dead.
Things can only get better.
Being from a rich family is neither here nor there.
Reality is what matters. My mum killed herself partly because she catastrophised my circumstances and predicted I was going to be living under a bridge with nothing.
She may well have been right about this but unfortunately was persuaded not to leave me all her cash.
The old man tried to help but was fucked over by a solicitor so we have the court case.
Other than that yes it is a depressing season isn't it.
More beer !
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Post by metanoia on Dec 12, 2023 20:07:30 GMT
So sorry to hear you've been struggling kris. Look after yourself and always remember how lucky you are to have friends and family there for you x
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