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Post by Clinton Cool on Feb 3, 2019 8:37:47 GMT
Patty's reply on the technology thread got me thinking. I'm happy to mix less these days. I've got a handful of friends who have been there years, I've no great desire to add to this. Always happy to natter with fellow boaters along the cut and all that. But.. the thought of being in large groups, at parties etc. fills me with dread. There will inevitably be a larger than life character or two who will take it upon himself/ herself to give you advice in life, tell you that you should be more outgoing, join in more, that kind of thing. They're implying of course that their way is the way, they have perfect lives,you are missing out. In doing so they are riding roughshod over the intricacies, the complexities, the triumphs and disappointments that have formed your character over your life. I think it's insensitive, and rude. On the flip side these characters, they have their own demons of course...
Just thought I'd out it out there, see what you think.
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Post by phil70 on Feb 3, 2019 8:43:14 GMT
Totally agree, and a close description of the way my life panned out
Phil
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2019 8:45:13 GMT
I fear it is almost guaranteed that others will adversely affect you, if you harbour a concern that others will adversely affect you.
I believe our demons are our own, we just use others for the purpose of apportioning blame.
Interesting ideas though for a quiet 'frozen in' Sunday.
Rog
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Post by Mr Stabby on Feb 3, 2019 8:59:05 GMT
Did somebody mention Frozen?
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Post by quaysider on Feb 3, 2019 9:07:39 GMT
Big groups make me shudder too... 3 maybe 4 people (plus us) is JUST about ok... any more and I would rather be home alone - I do however enjoy interaction with boater/towpath walkers.. .especially when I've had a gin or 6
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Post by greenman on Feb 3, 2019 9:29:32 GMT
I wonder if it's an age thing. The older I've got the more I've tried to avoid parties and large social gatherings.
Like quaysider I'm quite happy to sit down and natter with one or two people
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2019 10:01:40 GMT
I wonder if it's an age thing. The older I've got the more I've tried to avoid parties and large social gatherings. Like quaysider I'm quite happy to sit down and natter with one or two people I assumed it's cos when you are young you need parties and groups in order to meet new friends and partners, as you get older, you have your own social circle and have stabilised your partners. I think I natter to folks when out and about, but it tends to be impromptu. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2019 10:11:14 GMT
Never socialise in groups and never have. Always dreaded the idea of parties and mainly avoided pubs although I was dragged into some when I was in my late teens.
Pretty friendly person I'll always have a chat with people but I dislike people asking too much about living on the boat that's annoying and quite common.
As I get older I just want to be anonymous and make things more simple and get back to more boating as that is my only interest.
I socialise with my woman and children but that's about it in terms of going out.
I hate pubs with noise due to super sensitive hearing. I'm diagnosed aspergers so that could account for a few characteristics.
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Post by naughtyfox on Feb 3, 2019 10:25:30 GMT
I fear it is almost guaranteed that others will adversely affect you, if you harbour a concern that others will adversely affect you. I believe our demons are our own, we just use others for the purpose of apportioning blame. I sometimes think about the idea I originally had how my life should have gone, although it was a hazy and no definite goals - study Geology at University, and get involved in geological research and do some lecturing, and perhaps live in Australia with wide, open horizons and spectacular sunsets. I have kept to my 'straight and narrow' ambitions more or less, but forks in life have sent me in previously unimaginable directions, and I have explored some 'side branches' (such as having boated around much of Finland). For me, most of these forks (or all of them?) have turned out to be in directions I have approved of. Suddenly falling into the world of canals was unexpected but has been very enjoyable, and given me an excuse to explore Britain from a new angle. The Internet has certainly changed my life in ways unimaginable earlier - an example being Thunderboat itself. If TB had not been set up, there are many things we would not have ended up doing. As for parties, if you are happy with what you have achieved in life, how can you take much note of what someone else tells you about the mistakes you have made in life? After the passing of years you can see that if you had not made these 'mistakes' you would not have seen and experienced all that followed. I'm generally happy in planning things such as little expeditions, and seeing them come to fruition and successful conclusions. Lots of little, positive steps - leading up to who knows what? When you are dead, no-one really gives a toss what you got up to anyway. |
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Post by phil70 on Feb 3, 2019 13:24:19 GMT
Did somebody mention Frozen? Sod off Phil |
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Post by bamber on Feb 3, 2019 13:31:08 GMT
I've been on twitter for nearly 2 years and I still have no followers..... beat that for welcome solitude. 😁
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