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Post by patty on May 27, 2019 19:17:05 GMT
Must admit B and Q can try patience of any person However shouting at vulnerable children or adults not really acceptable
I just walk out now and leave my stuff for them to put away if I get cross over anything.. I don't wait for promised help to load my car..if I cannot lift what i want I don't buy cos no-one ever comes to assist....in fact if i see other women waiting for help to load their car I do it. There is no such thing as customer service
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2019 19:23:56 GMT
TelemachusI am endeared by the way you can tell how I deal with my children from my posts on an internet forum You might be rather shocked if you were to meet them ! Probably won't happen as I suspect you won't happen to be on the Thames or the east London ditches any time soon. Eta I do think you are a bit confused about "boundaries" in this context. Yes it is important to give children a structure and enforce limits of acceptable behaviour. I am someone who does this and I dislike it when people do not to this. However you are referring to an adult in this context. This person will not be able to absorb your feedback in a positive way. It can't happen. He is not going to go home and think you had a good point. The child who you say was about 10 is also not able to absorb your feedback in a positive way because the majority of the behavioural learning will already have taken place before that age. She is equally likely to think you are a dickhead and quite possibly felt (correctly) that you had some sort of patronising thing going on about her having downs syndrome.
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Post by Telemachus on May 27, 2019 19:53:55 GMT
Telemachus I am endeared by the way you can tell how I deal with my children from my posts on an internet forum You might be rather shocked if you were to meet them ! Probably won't happen as I suspect you won't happen to be on the Thames or the east London ditches any time soon. Eta I do think you are a bit confused about "boundaries" in this context. Yes it is important to give children a structure and enforce limits of acceptable behaviour. I am someone who does this and I dislike it when people do not to this. However you are referring to an adult in this context. This person will not be able to absorb your feedback in a positive way. It can't happen. He is not going to go home and think you had a good point. The child who you say was about 10 is also not able to absorb your feedback in a positive way because the majority of the behavioural learning will already have taken place before that age. She is equally likely to think you are a dickhead and quite possibly felt (correctly) that you had some sort of patronising thing going on about her having downs syndrome. Ah more smoke screening. Only you are bringing up (pun intended) your own parenting attributes. I am sure I might well be rather shocked if I met them. The question is, shocked in a good way or in a bad way! But still, I can let you have 5 seconds of deflection just so you feel clever for a moment before...
Now your latest deflection point is that adults cannot absorb feedback in a positive way. Hmm, can you cite any source for that proclamation? Clearly the guy with the inevitably tiny penis is not going to admit that I had a point at the time, but there is a fair chance that on reflection at home he might realise that regardless of whether or not he himself thinks his behaviour was OK, it has now been made clear that at least some people found his behaviour unacceptable. Social pressure. Just like on here, one posts stuff that one think is OK and then someone complains. If enough people complain, one gets the message. Apart from those people complaining just to smokescreen of course!
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Post by Mr Stabby on May 27, 2019 20:04:35 GMT
I think TellyMackus should have kept his big beak out. It really doesn't matter whether he thinks the gentleman's behaviour was acceptable or not, any more than I would be remotely interested in some vegan telling me my behaviour was unacceptable if I was chomping on a doner kebab and he would similarly be told to rearrange the words "yourself, fuck, go" to make a well-known phrase or expression.
If his daughter was that distressed about it she could always phone Esther Rantzen.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2019 20:13:38 GMT
god not Esther rantzen please. Don't even go there.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2019 20:34:34 GMT
At that point I said "Don't be so angry" to which he replied to mind my own fucking business or the like. I said "you are setting a very bad example to your daughter" to which more F-ing and a suggestion that we "take it outside" which was fairly brave considering he was a little runty thing and I am 6'4" Why didn't you just say "Charles knows where you live," and then "Dah, dah, daaaaahhh!!" in sinister overtones? You are asking for a visit... For tea and scones
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Post by Mr Stabby on May 27, 2019 20:43:46 GMT
Last Edit: 25 minutes ago by magnetman: Edit to decapitalise god Regardless of whether you subscribe to the theory that a specific god (e.g. the Judeo-Christian god, God) is a proper noun, the opening word in any sentence should always begin with an uppercase letter.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2019 20:58:07 GMT
Thats true in purely grammatical terms.
I was taught by my MI6 instructors to decapitalise proper nouns or names which is why I always write my own name in lower case letters.
Its to do with being impersonated. Most people will automatically default to using capitals for first name and surname.
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Post by Telemachus on May 27, 2019 21:56:01 GMT
I think TellyMackus should have kept his big beak out. You also think that is OK to live in a coffin and use the recently deceased still-warm bodies of stabbed prostitutes to keep you warm in bed. So I won't give too much credence to your thoughts.
Anyway, Jeff - who was actually there in the real world, as opposed to some fantasy virtual internet thingy for bored people looking to make an argument - who is much nicer person than anyone on here (including me) but is known for not being reluctant to criticise any social faux pas I make, said that he was glad that I had said something. So there.
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Post by Mr Stabby on May 27, 2019 21:57:19 GMT
I think TellyMackus should have kept his big beak out. You also think that is OK to live in a coffin and use the recently deceased still-warm bodies of stabbed prostitutes to keep you warm in bed. So I won't give too much credence to your thoughts. *Chortle*
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Post by patty on May 28, 2019 6:51:45 GMT
I would hesitate to say anything simply out of fear that the person would then verbally abuse me...I've had enough of that to last a lifetime. Plus I'm no hulky handbag wielding individual . Im only just over 5'. If Jeff, who does come across in your posts as reasonable didn't criticise your actions then thats OK.
As none of us there really I don't think we can for certs say what we would have done.
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Post by bodger on May 28, 2019 7:20:13 GMT
Must admit B and Q can try patience of any person However shouting at vulnerable children or adults not really acceptable I just walk out now and leave my stuff for them to put away if I get cross over anything.. I don't wait for promised help to load my car..if I cannot lift what i want I don't buy cos no-one ever comes to assist....in fact if i see other women waiting for help to load their car I do it. There is no such thing as customer service reminds me of an old mate who would load up a tray with a 'man-sized' breakfast at the motorway services in the 80's (when it was just one big restaurant with crap service, all the tables left uncleared, and the prices were astronomical compared with a transport caff) and when he got to the checkout and the price was totalled up he would say ' blimey, it it's that good why don't you keep it for yourself?' and walk away. In fact he had only stopped to fill up his van and have a pee. He was a heavy plant fitter and you wouldn't want to argue with him. He used to work out by swinging a 56lb sledgehammer. I expect these days the CCTV would have him on a facial recognition blacklist and a little man from security would appear and direct him to the exit. The worst thing about B&Q is that you get in the queue at the check-out, and the guy in front of you has a problem with one item, so the cashier has to call for someone to come to help. Takes a couple of minutes for the guy to arrive, and then she sends him off the other end of the store to check on a price. Prob'ly fields about 3 other customers on his way there and back. Yes I also have left my stuff and walked out.
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Post by naughtyfox on May 28, 2019 7:22:52 GMT
I was taught by my MI6 instructors to decapitalise proper nouns or names which is why I always write my own name in lower case letters. If you take the first letter of every sixth word magnetman writes, it spells out a secret message.
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Post by naughtyfox on May 28, 2019 7:25:16 GMT
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2019 7:26:03 GMT
Wish that applied to what you write Rog
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