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Post by bodger on Sept 20, 2020 10:39:25 GMT
I found sols to be pretty awful and ended up doing lot of the legwork that I could myself...I did find without continually hassling nowt done I've also taken on the sols x 2 for mistakes made that put me at risk..but I keep extensive diaries and had all the info I needed at hand. my brother has bought and sold many properties over the past 30 years, and after he was badly let down by an old schoolfriend who was a typical small town solicitor he decided to do it all himself, entirely successfully, but with huge resistance from the legal fraternity ................. "oh, that document must be signed by a solicitor" and that kind of crap. Solicitors are not familiar with the properties they are dealing with and any competent person should be able to do the whole procedure within a week or two, with the added benefit of knowledge of the property being bought/sold, and often recognising any potential snags that no solicitor would be aware of.
my mum worked in the Town Clerk's office in a small town for a while and overheard a chap telling someone that conveyancing took so long because they had to do a lot of detailed work on searches which took time and effort. Mum interrupted and told them both that one of her duties was to do the larger part of the searches on local properties at the request of conveyancing solicitors, that nearly all the information was readily available in the town records and she could and did provide full responses usually within 2 days.
Solicitors doing bread and butter work are a bunch of shysters.
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Post by Clinton Cool on Sept 20, 2020 10:57:04 GMT
Sad stories ... and I hope Clinton Cool your sister can make a full recovery to enjoy her family ... but I think we've moved a long way away from having a positive or negative outlook. No one can live their life buoyant, upbeat and positive all the time ... that's just unrealistic ... life touches us all. However it is possible to try and look for positives ... and I assume your o.p. wasn't discussing mental health issues, just our individual, daily outlook on life. Rog Aye but our individual, daily outlook on life balanced against expected outcomes is a big driver of good, or otherwise, mental health, is it not? I guess what I'm suggesting is that if people blindly expect everything to always work out well and then suffer a number of negative outcomes, their mental health could at risk. However, if they are more modest in their expectations and things don't pan out as hoped for, they are in a better position to deal with this. This is just my person opinion, I have no knowledge as such of this area. Perhaps Patty could comment? What I do know is that I'm expecting my house purchase in Wales to fall through. Because of this I haven't been out buying all the things I'd like in the place if it all goes through. I'm trying not to think about it too much. If it happens it happens. If it falls through I'll get myself a bottle of wine, probably munch on a donner kebab, enjoy the oblivion then the next day, go out kayaking as normal. If I'd got myself all excited and expectant and it fell through I don't know really, I've had enough knocks this year already. I haven't shared them all on this forum.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2020 11:05:49 GMT
Sad stories ... and I hope Clinton Cool your sister can make a full recovery to enjoy her family ... but I think we've moved a long way away from having a positive or negative outlook. No one can live their life buoyant, upbeat and positive all the time ... that's just unrealistic ... life touches us all. However it is possible to try and look for positives ... and I assume your o.p. wasn't discussing mental health issues, just our individual, daily outlook on life. Rog Aye but our individual, daily outlook on life balanced against expected outcomes is a big driver of good, or otherwise, mental health, is it not? I guess what I'm suggesting is that if people blindly expect everything to always work out well and then suffer a number of negative outcomes, their mental health could at risk. However, if they are more modest in their expectations and things don't pan out as hoped for, they are in a better position to deal with this. This is just my person opinion, I have no knowledge as such of this area. Perhaps Patty could comment? What I do know is that I'm expecting my house purchase in Wales to fall through. Because of this I haven't been out buying all the things I'd like in the place if it all goes through. I'm trying not to think about it too much. If it happens it happens. If it falls through I'll get myself a bottle of wine, probably munch on a donner kebab, enjoy the oblivion then the next day, go out kayaking as normal. If I'd got myself all excited and expectant and it fell through I don't know really, I've had enough knocks this year already. I haven't shared them all on this forum. Regarding the house purchase - I'm surprised the sale hasn't already collapsed - you took a back seat and left it alone to the experts - only a numpty ever does that.
There is a balance between being pushy/in charge of your life and just handing things over to fate/experts.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2020 11:12:41 GMT
We all try to find our own coping strategies ... we all need resilience and toughness at points in our life.
Sadly some get lost .
Rog
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Post by patty on Sept 20, 2020 14:57:19 GMT
Sad stories ... and I hope Clinton Cool your sister can make a full recovery to enjoy her family ... but I think we've moved a long way away from having a positive or negative outlook. No one can live their life buoyant, upbeat and positive all the time ... that's just unrealistic ... life touches us all. However it is possible to try and look for positives ... and I assume your o.p. wasn't discussing mental health issues, just our individual, daily outlook on life. Rog Aye but our individual, daily outlook on life balanced against expected outcomes is a big driver of good, or otherwise, mental health, is it not? I guess what I'm suggesting is that if people blindly expect everything to always work out well and then suffer a number of negative outcomes, their mental health could at risk. However, if they are more modest in their expectations and things don't pan out as hoped for, they are in a better position to deal with this. This is just my person opinion, I have no knowledge as such of this area. Perhaps Patty could comment? What I do know is that I'm expecting my house purchase in Wales to fall through. Because of this I haven't been out buying all the things I'd like in the place if it all goes through. I'm trying not to think about it too much. If it happens it happens. If it falls through I'll get myself a bottle of wine, probably munch on a donner kebab, enjoy the oblivion then the next day, go out kayaking as normal. If I'd got myself all excited and expectant and it fell through I don't know really, I've had enough knocks this year already. I haven't shared them all on this forum. I tend to drift along with no great expectations of good or bad and its a much better state of mind to be in...When the bad comes it floors for a while but then my mind begins to accept and suggest solutions. I do think that constant overload of bad stuff is bad for mental health..you just get to feel theres nothing out there but a long dark tunnel. I didn't subscribe to the view that everything would be great/fine..karma so i don't think for me there was that. Mental Health issues r complex what floors one person doesn't affect another... I am always fascinated when people share..I was on a train once and this young woman offloaded some pretty awful history...she'd reached her rock bottom. All u can do in these situations is listen and hope that by talking they begin to see solutions. As to buying stuff for the house..wait till u get in and see what u need. Thats what I did with Horror House....there is no rush. Its a common sense approach..u won't then buy what u don't need.. Fingers crossed it'll all go through
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