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Post by Telemachus on Sept 5, 2016 13:09:16 GMT
Suddenly on this 2 week trip, Jeff is my "colleague". Heard it 4 times now from boaters at locks. What is wrong with "mate", "friend" never mind "husband" or even "fuck-buddy"? Surely "colleague" is only used in a workplace context?
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Post by Mr Stabby on Sept 5, 2016 13:24:12 GMT
Or "bum chum" maybe?
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Post by naughtyfox on Sept 5, 2016 13:57:17 GMT
I met one of my 2nd-cousins for the first time this Summer and I was warned beforehand that he lives with his 'partner'. Both male. I think 'partner' is OK - why not 'boyfriend'? (as they're not married). We met them, and they seemed very nice, and amazed us with their house and the effort they had put into their garden. Talking of faggots, where's AMM these days?!!
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Post by kris on Sept 5, 2016 14:06:23 GMT
While I do think collegue is a bit peculiar, they probably didn't want to presume you are partners. I met a couple of " friends" on boats this year whilst I thought they where gay I didn't know. So I wouldn't presume to call them a couple without knowing.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 14:34:03 GMT
A bit of "faux offence" on your part I think, or maybe even attention seeking. Its no big deal is it? No different than someone refferring to my "Mrs or wife", (i ain't married).
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Post by bills on Sept 5, 2016 14:38:11 GMT
No - I think colleague is a weird word to use in the context of two blokes obviously enjoying leisure time together. It is vanishingly unlikely that it would be used for a male with a female in the same circumstances (unless at least one of them was holding a clipboard at the time.
I would use "mate" - wonderfully ambiguous.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 14:41:18 GMT
Hmmmm. Why make the world more difficult than it already is...
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Post by naughtyfox on Sept 5, 2016 14:44:08 GMT
Why not just say 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' (if not married)? Seems simple enough to me.
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Post by naughtyfox on Sept 5, 2016 14:45:26 GMT
Yeah, if I heard the word 'mate' I'd think he's the bloke who swobs down the decks/narrowboat roof with a mop!
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Post by Graham on Sept 5, 2016 15:13:21 GMT
Interesting, not sure what I would have called him, your friend probably. I know people call K who crews for me, your partner. She is not, just a good friend. I think people are frightened of offending so for two males maybe colleague is a safe word.
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Post by Telemachus on Sept 5, 2016 15:20:55 GMT
A bit of "faux offence" on your part I think, or maybe even attention seeking. Its no big deal is it? No different than someone refferring to my "Mrs or wife", (i ain't married). I wasn't offended at all, not even fauxly, just thought it an odd word to use and, a bit like buses, having not received it before surprised to get it 4 times in 2 weeks.
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Post by Graham on Sept 5, 2016 15:26:53 GMT
A bit of "faux offence" on your part I think, or maybe even attention seeking. Its no big deal is it? No different than someone refferring to my "Mrs or wife", (i ain't married). I wasn't offended at all, not even fauxly, just thought it an odd word to use and, a bit like buses, having not received it before surprised to get it 4 times in 2 weeks. Maybe you are getting more approachable. Hence people are trying to get things right. I know a female partnership where they refer to the other as husband. Can't get my head round that, husband is male in my old mind. But hey I claim old age as my excuse.
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Post by PaulG2 on Sept 5, 2016 15:27:06 GMT
A bit of "faux offence" on your part I think, or maybe even attention seeking. Its no big deal is it? No different than someone refferring to my "Mrs or wife", (i ain't married). I wasn't offended at all, not even fauxly, just thought it an odd word to use and, a bit like buses, having not received it before surprised to get it 4 times in 2 weeks. Where were you boating? Was it perhaps a regional fad where some people are trying to appear a bit intellectual by using a bigger word? Are there any popular TV shows or movies out now where they use colleague instead of friend or mate?
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Post by Telemachus on Sept 5, 2016 15:29:28 GMT
Why not just say 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' (if not married)? Seems simple enough to me. Interestingly when a gurl refers to her "girlfriend" it is not generally assumed that they are carpet munchers whereas if a bloke refers to his boyfriend they are clearly queer as a 9 bob note. Very strange! But anyway, "friend" or perhaps "personfriend" (to be PC) would be fine. im reminded of a wedding we went to, very posh affair in Inner Temple Hall in London (my uncle, the groom, was a QC and judge). Mother introduced Jeff to a crusty old family friend as "Nick's partner". Some time and several glasses of champagne later said chap sidles up to me and asks in his Etonian accent "So what sort of partner is Jeff, is he your business partner" to which I said, being mischievously tiddly "no, he's my bed partner" where upon said crusty chap scuttled off to nursey for some medication.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 15:30:06 GMT
A bit of "faux offence" on your part I think, or maybe even attention seeking. Its no big deal is it? No different than someone refferring to my "Mrs or wife", (i ain't married). I wasn't offended at all, not even fauxly, just thought it an odd word to use and, a bit like buses, having not received it before surprised to get it 4 times in 2 weeks. I could have believed what you now say, but this ("husband" or even "fuck-buddy"), convinced me you are just looking to score points.
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